篇一：Everything I Never Told You《无声告白》简析
Good afternoon everyone! I’m standing here to give my group’s presentation. The book we read is Everything I Never Told You by Celeste Ng. During the following time I will introduce this book from mainly 4 aspects and we will see what these four aspects are later.
Introduction (author book)
I guess almost all of you don’t know this author because I did not know her at all until we chose her book. I will tell you some specific information about her.
Celeste Ng (Chinese Name: 伍綺詩) is an Chinese American writer and novelist. She has released many short stories that have been published in a variety of literary journals. Ng's first novel, Everything I Never Told You:
A Novel, was released on June 26, 2014 and has won many awards such as Amazon Book of the year as wells as praise from critics. Celeste Ng's parents moved from Hong Kong, China in the late 60's. Her father was a physicist at NASA in the John H Glenn Research Center. Celeste’s mother was a chemist who taught at Cleveland State University.Ng studied English at Harvard. She then attended graduate school at University of Michigan where she earned her Master of Fine Arts in writing. (From Wikipedia)
Main characters
James Lee: Lydia’s father. Professor in Middlewood University. He is a
Chinese American, whose parents were the first generation immigrated to America. Growing up in a “racial discrimination” environment and always being totally different with everyone, he always tries to blend inthem and be the same with them.Maybe that’s why he chose to marry Marilyn. This makes him coward and self-abased. He never faces the reality, on contrary, he always escapes from it.
Marilyn: Lydia’s mother.A housewife.She is a white woman, growing up in a single parent family. Unlike James, she wants to be different all the time.And that is partly why she fights against gender inequality and fell in love with James. Because she didn’trealize her own dream, she pushes her wishes on her little daughter, Lydia, and gives her much pressure. She is very controlling and adventurous.
Nathan: Lydia’s older brother. Nath is the first child of Marilyn and James. He holds on to his dream and finally makes it come true-enter Harvard to study astronantics. He is a quite sensitive boy and he is dissatisfied with his parents’ preference for Lydia. But at the same time, he likes her sister very much.
Hannah:Lydia’s younger sister. Hannah is the youngest child but she is the most watchful one. She is always ignored by the whole family, so she longs for love and she is sensitive to love. She knows everything but she just keeps secrets for everyone.
Jack:Lydia’s companion. Jack is the Lee’s neighbor. He pretends to be
dandiacal but that’s only his way to hide himself and his feelings towards Nath. He is actually a kind and sensitive boy.
Louisa:Assistant of Lydia’s father. She is a Chinese American. She is studying at graduate school. She has a crush on James and they have an affair for about 2 months after Lydia’s death.
Causes of death:
Family influence(life experience)
1957
James, the academically gifted child of Chinese immigrants spent his entire life yearning to belong and went on to become a university professor, where he met Marilyn in 1957 in a class he was teaching on American culture at Harvard. Meanwhile, Marilyn grew up disgusted by her homemaker mother and longed to become a doctor. When she met James and recognized the racist treatment he had been receiving, Marilyn immediately felt a kinship with him and the two began an affair. Discovering she was pregnant, she arranged for a quick marriage to James and was disgusted when her mother tried to stop the wedding after seeing that James was of Asian descent.
? Influence on Lydia:James always wants to be the same with others and Marilyn always wants to be different. That’s why they choose
each other as their partner. The environment where both of them grow up makes them the same kind of person, who doesn’t know how to communicate with and express love to each other . Therefore, they love Lydia but they expressed their love in a wrong way. They forced Lydia to obey their willing. James, Lydia’s father, cannot blend into the white, therefore, he kept putting force on Lydia’s interpersonal skills, urge Lydia to blend in the white community which made Lydia stressful. Marilyn, Lydia’s mother, felt regretful stopping pursuit her dream to become a woman doctor, so she hoped that Lydia could continue her dream and become an excellent doctor, which brought greater pressure on Lydia. They both cannot set a good example for Lydia, they cannot teach Lydia how to love and be lovable. Growing up in such a family environment, Lydiaalways got confused and miserable.1966
Marilyn intended to go back and continue her studies to become a doctor after her son, Nathan, was born, but after a second pregnancy with Lydia she remained a home-maker for eight years. After receiving news of her estranged mother's death, Marilyn returned to her childhood home to deal with her mother's things and had a crisis after realizing that she achieved the home-maker life her mother always desired for her. After briefly returning home, she abandons the family in
order to pursue her academic studies without leaving a note. James believes that she has left because he and the children are Asian and she no longer wants to deal with the societal pressure of being outsiders. Influence on Lydia:Marilyn’s missing changes Lydia’s characters. During the period of Marilyn’s missing, Lydia became extremely sensitive and she eagerly wanted her mother back. That was when she decided that she would do anything Marilyn wanted her to do. Every time her mother asked, she said yes, yes, yes.
1966, summer
Marilyn's absence lasts nine weeks, during which she realizes she is pregnant with a third child, Hannah. She returns home and realizes she will never have the will to abandon her children and pursue a career again. Instead she begins to encourage Lydia to become a doctor, aggressively training her in math and other sciences. During Marilyn's absence, James also began favoring Lydia and bullying Nath, whom James perceives is as friendless as James was in childhood. Nath becomes jealous of Lydia and one day pushes her into the lake even though she cannot swim. However, the ease with which she falls causes Nath to realize that Lydia is drowning under the weight of her parents expectations. He rescues her and the two become close.
Influence on Lydia: 1. Marilyn pushes her wishes on Lydia and gave her much pressure after she is back. Lydia just does what she promised
篇二：无声告白
无声告白Everything I Never Told You
无言的告白，无声的诉说，一个悲伤的故事。
故事是从一个十六岁少女莉迪亚忽然在普通的一天失踪开始的，当她的尸体从冰冷的湖水中被打捞出来时，这个家庭的所有成员，爸爸，妈妈，哥哥，妹妹都陷入到了崩溃的边缘。是自杀？还是他杀？她的死，谁能负责？
以爱之名，行谋杀之实。
是父母的期待让这个十六岁的少女不堪重负，无数多次的想摆脱期待，找到真正的自己，但她却无法言诉，少女无言的告白谁能听见？当她的最后一根救命稻草逐渐远去的时候，她走向了死亡。
天下的父母，你们可知，爱是希望，也是枷锁，孩子的许多告白是无声，需要你们去发掘。莉迪亚的故事，是成千上万的家庭的缩影。多少父母将自己未完成的梦想寄托在孩子身上，多少父母不停地逼迫孩子成长为他们心目中所期待的样子？蒋方舟曾经说过：“孩子在年幼的时候取得的一切成绩，都是一种向大人们的献媚。”我们生活在一个人情味很重的社会里，从小到大就习惯被各种“爱与期待”绑架，学习要有好成绩，比赛要得第一，甚至于你该跟什么样的人结婚，这些种种来自父母的期待就像雪花一样不断地落到我们身上，最终压垮我们。
我曾试想过，假如莉迪亚与能与父母进行沟通，这样的悲剧会不会避免？我认为不会，有一种心理畸形叫童年的阴影，有一种可怕的力量叫习惯，最痛苦的不是你不知道痛苦的根源，而是你知道却无法言说，当莉迪亚面对父亲身后的种族背景，母亲自身的成长经历以及自己小时候所经历的一切，都让她难以诉说心中的痛苦，最终走向绝路。
读这本书的时候，我带入了我自己，我和她也有相似点，从小到大，我父母也对我有许许多多的期许，也曾以爱之名逼迫过我去做我不想做的事，但是，幸好，我没惨到莉迪亚那种地步，需要通过死才能解决。我努力的去和父母沟通，分享彼此的想法，让自己，让父母学会和自己和他人和解，放过自己也放过他人。
最后，我想说，这本书中涉及很多方面，包括身份危机、人生成就、种族、性别、家庭以及个人道路等等，给我感触最深的就是父母把未竟的梦想强加于孩子身上，因为有一天我们也会为人父母，别让你的孩子成为过去或今天的你，希望你在阅读完这本书，看清生活的真相后，依然热爱生活。
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篇三：《无声告白》读后感
《无声告白》读后感
愿生命充满希望和爱----《无声告白》>读后感
终于读完了华裔女作家伍绮诗的小说《无声告白》（ Everything I Never Told You ），一部极其压抑的关于异族通婚的小说，通篇的压抑让我难以忍受。
小说以莉迪亚死了为线索开篇，莉迪亚是詹姆斯。李先生家里的大女儿，也是他们寄予最大的希望的一个孩子，母亲玛丽琳因为奉子结婚未能实现的职业女性的理想，通通传递给了莉迪亚，使莉迪亚变成了那个完全不是自己的自己，直到有一天，她失踪了、死了，玛丽琳还是没有觉悟女儿的死，是因为这个家庭，这份沉重到无法释怀的希望杀了她。
这本书让我看到身为母亲，在一个家庭里的位置何其重要，只有一个阳光，积极的母亲才能够成就健康向上的孩子们，也只有这样的母亲才能够让一个家庭充满凝聚力，玛丽琳婚后的生活在别人眼里或许是幸福的，但是对于她的内心，却始终充满挣扎和痛苦，这份揪扯让她失去了作为母亲的敏感，失去了和孩子们成为朋友的可能性，她终究是活在自己的世界里的，身为母亲，我想她是失职的，因为她并没有真正成为孩子们精神世界、成长路上的那个最好的陪伴，而只是一个不称职的主妇。很遗憾，这个家庭的男主人华裔大学教授，詹姆斯。李是一个内心压抑的男人，为了逃避他人对这个异族通婚家庭关注的异样目光，他让孩子们失去了每年假期旅游的机会，并完全放任自己躲避在安全的世界里，这样的母亲和父亲用行动不断的提醒着三个孩子他们的特殊性。当然，詹姆斯的压抑来自于他从小的生活环境，这是那个时代的产物，作为生活在美国的华裔底层，詹姆斯的父母承受了巨大的生活和精神压力，这份压力也毫无意外的传递给他们的孩子詹姆斯，虽然他有幸寄读在贵族学校，但是他永远都知道自己是低人一等的，而这种感觉终将成为他生命中最深刻的烙印，影响他一生。
身为一个哈佛大学肄业女大学生，莉迪亚的妈妈玛丽琳的内心始终有难以释怀的遗憾，遗憾自己没有完成的学业，遗憾自己变成了一个家庭主妇，她是那么渴望被这个社会的认可，那么渴望能够成为完全的自己。在莉迪亚只有5岁某一天的早晨，玛丽琳消失了，我无法明白她为什么会选择这样的方式离开家庭和孩子去追寻所谓的梦想，身为母亲的我更是无法理解她怎么可能就这样离去！因为任何一个有爱的母亲都是无法主动的放弃她心爱的孩子的，更何况家里还是一儿一女两个孩子需要她的照顾，哦，或许也正是因为这两个孩子带来的繁重家务，让她不胜其烦，所以，她才会想要逃离。我一直相信，当你带着爱去做家务的时候，那就是爱；当你带着厌烦去做家务的时候，那一切真的就变成了烦扰。玛丽琳离开了，因为她想要去重新找到人生的方向和自己的定位，但是这种离开是自私的，此刻的她已经不是孑然一人，那段离开家的日子成了全家人的噩梦，不辞而别的妻子让詹姆斯从恋爱伊始就恍惚的所谓自己的'不值得'变成了现实，毕竟那是一个还有很严重的种族歧视的时代，小个子的华裔男人在那种文化里永远显得那么特别和尴尬，玛丽琳给予他的爱情曾经让他重生，却又始终令他忐忑，所以当玛丽琳突然不辞而别的时候，这个男人的自信被摧垮了。当然，母亲的离去受到伤害最重的一定是两个孩子，内斯和莉迪亚，他们失去了对生活的信任，变得惊恐万分，母爱所能给予的那份成长的安全感在那一次出走事件中完全的被剥夺了。
所以，当玛丽琳回家时候，全家人并没有欣喜若狂，而是变得小心翼翼，敏感的孩子们容忍母亲每天的不做饭，容忍母亲提的任何要求，尤其莉迪亚，容忍并接受母亲把全部人生的希望都寄托在自己身上，看到这里的时候，我又一次相信，娶老婆必须要娶一个情商高的女人，一个能为自己和别人负责任的女人，只有一个心智健全的女人才能
成为一个合格的母亲，而玛丽琳真的不是一个合格的母亲，虽然她为了这个家庭完全失去了那个年轻时的自我，可是这份失去给予她的不是愉悦的对生命状态的接受，而是让自己永远的变成了一个受害者，这种受害的心情毁掉的何止是自己的人生，詹姆斯幸福吗？当年娶了一个如此爱他的白人妻子是喜悦和深情的，但在漫长的婚姻生活里，这个女人的表现却击败了他们共同创造的这个家庭、这个家庭里的每一个人，当然这其中有一个很重要的原因是詹姆斯觉得妻子就理所应当被丈夫养，这种思想源自从小看到母亲做工的辛苦，他以为丈夫养家是对女人的救赎，殊不知正是这种思想最后害了玛丽琳，最终更是伤害了他心爱的女儿莉迪亚，所以异族通婚是一件绝对需要慎重面对的事情，因为它包含的不仅仅是爱情，还有两种文化的融合，而这种融合可能需要一辈子的时间。莉迪亚最后变成了一个敏感孤立的姑娘，她和兄妹们的长相遗传了爸爸的东方人面孔，妈妈的蓝眼睛，那个样子在70年代的美国，她只能被称为'东方女孩',长相上的特别，铸就了她内心的孤立，而母亲近乎疯狂的管教和期望更是勒的莉迪亚喘不过气来，她没有自己的时间，也就完全失去了业余社交的可能性，这个女孩太多内心的痛苦无以表白，最后统统化作了'无声告白'.
莉迪亚在哥哥内斯即将要去哈佛上大学的时候，自己选择了离开，因为哥哥原本是她最坚定的依靠，她无法想象没有哥哥的日子。孤立的她，没有勇气去面对一个没有温暖只有压抑的家庭，没有勇气去面对没有同伴，没有朋友的学校生活，莉迪亚的这些痛苦和挣扎妈妈并不知道，或者说完全不曾觉察。玛丽琳从来没有去关心过她的孩子们内心的需求，一份以自己的需求为出发点的所谓母爱是自私的，我只能说那不是爱，而是以爱的名义实施的对孩子的控制。真正的爱是需要把焦点放到对方的身上，切实的去感知对方的需求，而不是让被爱的人成为施爱者情绪、思想的寄托。，记得在哪里看到过一句话：只有一个内在匮乏的人，才会在缺乏安全感的情况下希望通过对他人的控制来让自己安稳。这，或许正是玛丽琳的状态，她对自己失望了，所以转而在莉迪亚身上寻找希望，却完全没有想到那所谓的母爱最后成为戕害莉迪亚的凶手。
我不喜欢这部小说，太过压抑，从这本书里我才知道，原来今天如此开放的美国也曾走过那样一段排斥异族的时期，那是时代的产物，作者揭示的是一个时代的悲剧，这可能就是这部小说的意义所在，从这本书联想到近百年中国人漂洋过海的历史，会是怎样一部深重的苦难史啊，所有的悲苦最大的莫过于加诸于精神上的伤害，那种伤害的传递会让一代代人背负承重的枷锁，如同莉迪亚的不快乐，内斯内心的压抑，汉娜的惶恐，只能在这里祈祷，现世安稳，愿更多这样的家庭一代代健康成长，沐浴阳光和爱，生命永远充满希望。
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